Couples Counseling

First off, what defines a couple? Romance? Monogamy? Marriage? Living together? Friendship? Partnership? These labels will not fit everyone. I consider "couples" to mean two people wanting to work on their connection, no matter what defines their relationship.

Are you considering moving in or marriage with someone? Do you want to feel on solid ground before the next step? Pre-marital (or living together) counseling might be for you.

Do you feel like your relationship is at a standstill? Are you and your loved one stuck in the same argument loop every night? Do you feel like you and your partner are drifting away? Do you desire more closeness between you and your partner?

All things can be improved, changed, and bettered with just a little support, no matter how big or small. With couples therapy, you’ll learn how to communicate your feelings and needs, and open up the potential to get what you want out of your relationship.

Some issues that bring couples to therapy are:

Balance (Work/Life/Family)
Blended Families
Divorce
Extended Family
Gender identity
Growing your family
Infidelity/Cheating
Intimacy
Mental Illness
Parenting conflicts
Sexual identity
Substance Abuse

Couples work inherently involves taking risk to get close and pulling back to protect oneself from feeling too vulnerable. In our couple's therapy sessions, we'll work on clarifying what is troublesome for each person in the relationship, develop communication and listening skills, and start to rebuild connection and compassion. There is no guarantee, of course that couple's therapy will lead to a restorative connection, it is the goal perhaps but love can also mean letting go and saying goodbye. If this is the journey you are on, it requires your willingness to explore your feelings, thoughts, beliefs and curiosities about what could be next.

If any of these issues relate to your and your partner, I invite you to reach out to see if we might be a good fit. .